Saturday, November 9, 2013

Saturday online dating tips:

Do you realize that different people have different interpretations of the purposes for particular dating sites?

What I mean is, let's say you are using (please do not limit this discussion to just plentyoffish, the following applies to all dating sites). While you might possibly be on a particular site for the pure honest intent to just find that next fantastic lover to add to your life, you must keep in mind that other people have other intentions. It is quite possible that the person you are meeting is on Plentyoffish with the intentions to just have a booty call. It is even possible that my mind cannot even begin to imagine or interpret what lies on some minds as to why they are on a dating site. My point in explaining this is, it would not hurt if you are upfront with a person you are interested in meeting with. It is important to do this to ensure both of you are in-fact on either the same or at least on more similar pages, than not. The worst thing you could ever do is assume that your reason for being on a site is the same as  person you are ready to meet, when in-fact that person you are ready to meet is thinking something VERY different. Going with such assumptions is a dangerous approach since in the end feelings could get hurt, and things could get worst than that. Always keep in mind that other person you are meeting are just as human as you. And hopefully they are as thoughtful and caring as you not to play you in your pursuit.

It might also be helpful to keep in mind that a person you might be wanting to meet, their profile could say one thing, and, as we all know, life has its way of changing as quickly as a second passes by on a clock. So, my point? It cannot hurt if you ask the person you want to  meet whether their profile is currently explaining who they are, and what their intentions are, not yesterday, but today.

Good luck! If you ever have any questions relating to online dating, feel free to reach out to me, and I will do my best to answer your question as best as I can, if I can.

Actually before I go. Keep in mind, yes, it is totally possible that we can all find someone totally insane and scary on the internet via a dating site, but, truth is, you are meeting humans. What I mean by this is, it is possible to meet someone crazy anywhere. It is important to keep yourself level minded. Do not get caught up and carried away in a fake love lost world. Get to know the person before you regret not getting to know the person. This applies to whether you meet someone online or outside of the internet world. People are people whether the first time you meet them is online, or at the library. Crazy can be found all over.

Friday, November 8, 2013

It's A Friday. And it's A Night. And Do I Wanna Go Out?

Answer me that. Do you really wanna go out? What is the fun in that! There is nothing better than sitting on a couch with your lover's legs pressed against yours, after having bottles of The Mad Elf Ale, topping that bad boy off with some delicious Dog Fish Head chaser. Seriously, Mr. Independent Troegs Craft Brewery, your beer is delicious. But, I can only have one. If I had another, I'd be, well, I'd probably be jumping out the window at my girlfriend's apartment trying to see if that is in fact the elf hiding behind my car in the parking lot. So, to answer my own life long question of, "do you wanna go out?" No, I wanna stay right here. Also, I cannot fail to mention this evening's movie. There is nothing better than drinking Mad Elf Ale, Dog Fish Head and watching Jennifer Garner in the wonderfully absurd movie called: "Butter." And, why am I expelling any go yhid. Well, jus

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Dating Suggestion of the Day

Be patient! Be aware!

Why be patient? I am not yet a wise old man. However, I am wise enough to know by now that when we rush into a relationship before getting to know the person whom we are jumping into bed with (I do mean that literally or figuratively, and literally and figuratively), we are risking a number of outcomes. More specifically and certainly not limited to: 1. Hurt feelings 2. Hurt feelings 3. Hurt feelings and finally, 4. Hurt feelings. So, the moral to this little group of words is, be smart, don't just jump into bed without making sure you really want to be in bed with that person. Again, that bed equation is meant to be taken literally or figuratively, and literally and figuratively.

Why be aware? Generally speaking, being aware is being in touch with truth. Many times we find ourselves in a relationship, we sense that some kind of lie is going on. But, somehow that egomaniacal liar has this fancy way of making us believe that our intuition is wrong, and then on top of that, this particular type of person can turn things around on us, making us feel as though we are the ones who have done the wrong thing that we suspected this egomaniacal liar of doing. Okay, anyway, my point is you know yourself best. If you know your feelings, and that feeling of "something ain't right" surfaces throughout your mind or body, that is when you need to really trust yourself and make sure that you are not being played for as a fool. So, yes, be aware!

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Igniting The Flame: General Dating Suggestions

Searching for love online comes in many different forms. As many of us are quickly molded by pop-culture as we grow up, we are instantly tuned into the possibility of fairy tale type of "love at first sight" possibilities; reality prevails, however, as we all try to spark up that flame of love and all we have is a wet match. 

I do not believe that the spark of love can be immediately ignited into this huge flame of love, with happiness and whatever else it is we see on the movies, or read in novels. 

No, no, love takes time!  

It is way too simple to peak in on other peoples lives as you totally misinterpret the amount of time it took for those people to fall in-love. What might look like a minute to you, is probably actually thousands of minutes to them. If it did not take time for those people you are peaking in on, it is likely then the both of those people were just ready in that particular moment as one began rubbling their flint around someone who was leaking something flammable. Yes, I did just say that. I have no clue why I am speaking in euphemisms right now. 

I believe what I am trying to say is, when you first meet someone, be smart, be patient. You do not want to just quickly jump into a relationship or anything before the both of you involved are clear about each other,  and your intentions are both known and understood. At the least, before jumping into a relationship, have a truthful general discussion with each other about who you see yourself as, and what you want out of life, whether or not that is anything. In this type of conversation, explaining that you want nothing, is something. And it needs to be discussed. 

Always keep in mind that the person you are on a date with, they too have feelings, emotions, and everything else that a normal human has, even if you or your date are not the definition of normal per se, you are still human, well, wait, hopefully you are on a date with a human. As you will see in the attached video, some of us aren't so lucky to be on a date with a human. But anyway if you happen to be an emotionless, feelingless person, try putting yourself in the thought as though the person sitting across from you is your mother, father, sister or brother. No, I am just trying for you to imagine incest, yuk, but I am trying to get you to understand that you should not play with other peoples emotions. You need to be honest and upfront so that time is not wasted and feelings are not hurt for either participant. If you are someone who hates your parents, your family, and when you put yourself in their shoes you just become more mean and vengeful toward your date, WELL, honestly, you need to seek out professional help and you just shouldn't be dating until you change a little bit of that anger. Anyway, I found the following video online sometime ago. I found it at a time when I was searching for love online; the video's satirical value made me laugh and smile, and so I wanted to share it with you. 

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

So you want to date?

As the title of this first post claims: "You want to date."

Whatever your reasons might be, you are now on the internet, and you are either actively, or possibly hesitantly stepping around trying to find that possible love of your life. Some of you are newly divorced, some of you are folk who work way too many hours and you have no time to meet people, some of you are just too shy to step up to someone and make that first initiating step to see if a relationship is even possible. I can keep going on, and on, and on, and on, and on... My point is, I know about the online dating world. And, with this blog my only intentions are to be helpful, or as helpful as I possibly can to anyone who is in need of assistance through this world of finding love online.

I am the owner of I have personally been involved in the online dating community for quite some years now. Besides hosting and running the free dating community, a place that has seen thousands of members, I have been personally searching for that one love of my life for quite some time now. Mostly this search has been aided and guided by the internet. My involvement with the online dating world first began in the mid 90's when I met my first girlfriend, someone I had met on AOL at a time when it was possible to search through somewhat personal details in member's profile pages. It was simple for strangers that were either neighbors or folk from all ends of the world to find particular information, and then message that person either through email, or instant messaging. After all of these years, I am happy to announce that after years and years of what felt like to me an endless or wasted search, I have finally met someone who I think is quite the incredible person. Amazingly enough, but not shocking at all, the two of us met online.

Now, what has happened to, and what will happen with it? Nothing really happened with it. Back in 2008-09, after a good deal of energy, time, and money put into promoting and building the site, I realized I needed to cease all of my internet activities and head back to school to earn a degree. In that time, up until the writing of this post, has been an active online dating community. However, I do not see it doing much at the moment. My visits have dropped drastically, and I have had more and more spammers signing up to the site than ever before, and more than anyone else. Spammers are incredibly frustrating to me because when I initially created my main objective was to fight off and keep away all spammers. That is an incredibly difficult task for a free online dating community to uphold. But, for quite sometime, I did it pretty well at keeping them away. Currently, though, they are winning, therefore, I am taking the site down. I am planning on furthering my education even more and I do not want to keep this site up in a half-ass sort of way, and there are a number of reasons I have for that, all concerning the welfare of those in the online dating community.

So, for now, I am going to keep it as a blog. And I am going to put down words and broadcast them as my thoughts in a truthful way that I believe will be helpful toward the wide variety of people who are searching for love online. Maybe one day will return as an online dating community, and hopefully it will be that great site I originally dreamed it to be. However, for now, I believe that the person I am, my conscience I have will feel better knowing that is still helping people who need the help to find love, but just in a different way. Besides, currently, as I know from personal experience, there are some truly awesome websites out there that are legitimately helpful in finding people dates, and loves, more than my site has been able to up to this point.

Please feel free to reach out to me. I am busy with my studies, but I will reply whenever I can.